I believe it to be normal, when facing a fork in the road, to seek the input from others. It’s like on that show – Who Wants to be a Millionaire – when the contestant is not quite sure what the answer is so they utilize a poll from the audience members. The hope, of course, is that the majority opinion is the right answer. Only in life that’s not always true.
I’ve learned that the answer lies within ourselves. What’s right for me may not be right for you.
The challenge then becomes knowing your own boundaries; like when you’re building a home and all you have is a plot of dirt and you have to take nails and string to outline where the rooms are going to go.
We are our own architects.
So true!
I just put all the dots together. As a long time reader (under many different blog pseudonyms), I just wanted to let you know I’m out here supporting you. I’m a year and a half down the road from a divide. If you ever need to vent to a stranger in the world, you’ve got my email.
Thanks, Ama. I often think how nice it would be to have a band of sisters that have gone through it to meet with on an ongoing, routine basis. I’ve been finding so much comfort in other women’s stories. I hope you are well and that the new road is better lit.
Like the previous reader, I’ve also been following your blog/insta for some time. And like you, I’m learning about boundaries and trying to implement them into my life…just hating that it took me 46 years to figure this out. Also loving that I finally figured it out. Looks like you did as well. Stay strong for yourself and your boys. Best of luck on your next journey.
I suppose some live a lifetime and never figure it out. I don’t think we ever have it all figured out… still growing, no matter the age 🙂 Thank you for the support.
Wow. This hit me like a ton of bricks.
Proud of you for figuring it out and being brave enough to make your own life yours!