Being okay with divorce does not mean there’s no struggle but rather that the struggle is a necessary part of the equation that will ultimately lead to growth. The mess, the heartache, the confusion, the uncertainty, the stress, I fully believe will bring us all to a better place if we invite the struggle. I’m inviting the struggle.

I got a text from my girl Shelby yesterday that reminded me of just this… and it tied in so perfectly with something else I had read recently about happiness — the general point of both being that happiness does not mean that you ignore the negative emotions in your life; but rather you acknowledge them, you do what you can with them, and you continue to grow in spite of them.

I’ve always felt that way — and in a weird, twisted way, tragedy has always excited me some… because there is so much potential for growth in times like this. It doesn’t make the hard days enjoyable but it certainly makes them worthwhile… knowing that they’re necessary and not going away. I know that accepting that and working within those parameters and continuing to grow anyway is where my superpower lies… to feel it all and wake up the next day still ready to get up and take the bull by the horns.