Link Love
This photo is making the green thumb in me want to come out and play.
Loving this song. It makes me excited for summer. So does this 80 degree weather. That’s 25 Celsius for all ya’ll on the other side of the globe. Good song though, no?
Wishing I could afford this top. It’s $180, on sale, mind you.
This photo is so simple, yet dreamy. It’s by Lonnie Webb, one of my favorites.
I’m loving on this song too. Such a beautiful intro.
Wanting to do this DIY when the time fairy chooses to grace me with her requested presence.
Supporting this documentary and all it stands for.
Side note: Thank you all for your thoughtful comments on yesterday’s post. There was some great dialogue and I felt a lot better after reading what ya’ll had to say. My favorite part about blogging, hands down, is the support we can all give one another. So cool. Thanks for inspiring me and for supporting me.
06/52
A portrait of my husband, once a week, every week, in 2013.
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His & Hers
The world wide web is a never-ending sea of inspiration. It’s no wonder why I get stuck behind the computer screen so often. The computer is the new TV, isn’t it? Well, I want to pay tribute to those that continuously serve as a source of inspiration. Individuals, via instagram, who enrich the time I spend on my ass breastfeeding. So today, I’m starting a little His & Hers Instagram lovefest where I’m going to share some couples I follow on instagram. Couples whose photography and lives I admire.
And there’s no better way to kick this off than with Matthew (@matthewdennis) & Katie Dennis (@katieanndennis).
These two are currently featured in the Like Knows Like project. Haven’t heard of this project? I think you will. Well, duh, you’re hearing about it now. But mark my words, you’ll hear of it again.
Like Knows Like is a fabulous film project that serves to closer connect admirers with those they admire. Those behind the project state, “The digital world we live in is often criticized as volatile and shallow. We miss a bit of the human touch and perspective sometimes. That’s how the idea was born to make a series of small documentary films about the people we follow and admire. With our films, we celebrate the bond between follower and artist. We’re convinced documentary film can go deeper into getting to know a person better and might satisfy the curiosity we and fellow followers have”.
Here is the Like Knows Like film featuring Matthew & Katie. Aren’t following them on instagram? Then you’re missing the F out.
05/ 52
A portrait of my husband, once a week, every week, in 2013.
We’re celebrating a birthday this weekend. I’m referring to him as my old man this weekend only. Happy birthday, mi amor.
04/52
A portrait of my husband, once a week, every week, in 2013.
“A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty” -unknown.
60 Years
These photos are from a few weeks back, when we were in Arizona to celebrate Willy’s grandparents 60th wedding anniversary. I had intentions of writing a post about what 60 years of love must be like before I realized that me writing on the subject would be like a caterpillar telling you what it must be like to be a butterfly.
What I can tell you, from the relatively short time Willy and I have been married, is that marriage is work in the same sense that children are work. Anyone who tells you they don’t have to work at their marriage and says raising their children was a breeze is lying. Or maybe they refuse to use the word “work” to describe what in actuality is an ongoing metamorphosis powered by love.
No matter how you chose to talk about it, marriage does not come without sacrifice and does not survive without communication. I shared some things I had learned in this post, but here are some other tidbits on marriage. These aren’t, by the way, meant to be my advice to you… Rather, these are things that little voice in my head whispers to myself. I know nothing about your relationship, only what works for us…
-Don’t forget about one another. When you have children, it’s easy to focus all your attention on them. I think most woman would agree that even buying things for yourself takes a backseat to buying things for your children instead. It’s easy to forget about your own needs, let alone the needs of your spouse. Children are great; They certainly are your most beautiful art project. But in the midst of loving them, you must remember to nurture the love for which their existence is founded upon. I remember observing relationships of my friends parents when I was growing up. There were those that seemed to get along but didn’t seem to be “in love”, so-to-say. Then were those that fought all the time, regardless of your presence. And then there were those that still touched each other, still gazed lovingly at one another across the room, and still chose to spend time with one another. It’s important, for me, for my children to see our love and feel like they are a part of it.
–Stay strong but not stubborn.
-Vent. It’s easy to keep things inside but it’s not so easy to keep them inside when they begin to compile ontop of one another. Sometimes something Willy is doing doesn’t bother me the first time, but by the fifth time I’m about ready to tear my hair out (oh lord, another hair reference? Really Ashley? Let it go, your hair will grow back…). I’m fortunate in the sense that Willy welcomes my vent sessions and, by the end of the ranting and raving, I think we both feel better. Venting is necessary to move forward. Almost always after we put it out on the table, it’s considered dealt with. I love that about our relationship.
-Life is like a Chinese finger trap; When it gets too tight, you have to relax. Keep it light. Life is hard. Work is hard. Caring for children is hard. So when you can, find humor in the everyday. I promise, it’s there.
Who knows, maybe in 57 more years I’ll be recapping the highs and the lows of marriage over a 60 year time span. Sixty years. I’ll let that sink in.
Have you let that marinate? So here’s to love and life and togetherness. Feel free to share what fuels your love and/or marriage.
Update: My blog is in 6th place over on Top Baby Blog! Thanks to all of you who keep voting 🙂 Prit-tee cool, prit-tee cool.
03/52
“A portrait of my husband, once a week, every week, in 2013.”
I went on a date two nights ago with this handsome man I sometimes call my husband. You don’t want to know what I call him other times. It reminded me that I need to be okay with leaving the kids with a sitter from time to time to enjoy an evening out with the this hunk of meat. Before we even turned off our street, we turned toward one another and high-fived. Indeed, I love this man.
Side note: Standings over on Top Baby Blogs are reset. You’re two clicks away from voting. Would you be so kind? Your parents won’t mind at all if you do. If you caught The Cat in the Hat reference then you must have a toddler too.
You Are My Wild
{Click on each photo to find out more about the photographer behind each one}
You Are My Wild is an amazing project that has just begun. The project brings 14 different photographers together, on a weekly basis, to display images they capture of their children. I can’t even tell you how ruffled my feathers would be to be part of something like this. Perhaps I’ll add it to my bucket list goals and in the meantime, I’ll gawk at these beautiful images from some amazingly talented individuals. You can check it out here on a weekly basis. I know I will.
02/52
Getting ready for work. He always kisses me goodbye and greets me with a kiss when he returns home. The highlight of my day is when he calls to tell me he’s coming home; partly because I can’t wait to see him and partly because that means this mama will have much needed help!
As a side note, it just dawned on me that this wee little project is going to highlight how quickly these weeks fly by. My goodness does life speed up when you have children.
01/52
Documenting my children has been very easy for me. It’s been very natural and has yet to feel forced. I was inspired when I saw this photo project, which I was lead to from this blog. Being that I already photograph my children on a weekly, if not daily basis, I’m opting to participate in a similar photo project featuring none other than mi amor, my husband, my best friend.
I spend a lot of time on this blog writing about my children and documenting my love for them. But none of that would be there without the foundation Willy and I have built through our own love. So I’m dedicating this yearly project to Willy. A photo a week of the man I love.
Hey Willy, here’s to looking at you kid.
Family Photos
Laundry is always better folded when folded by someone else. Dishes are always cleaner when cleaned by someone else. Food is always tastier when cooked by someone else. And family photos are always better when shot by someone else.
Meet Dennis & Jamie.
Dennis and Jaime photographed our wedding, so I was incredibly over the moon when they posted an offer on facebook for a free family session to one lucky winner. And by golly, we were one of what became a few winners. How we were chosen, I’ll never comprehend. I’ve won an occasional buck or two on a scratcher, but other than that, I’m your run of the mill gal whose luck is neither here nor there. I should mention that I also won a chocolate bunny at an Easter Egg hunt when I was seven. It was held at the neighborhood park and you had to find the special golden egg to win. My dad, being the competitive dude that he is, spotted the golden egg before the contest began and in true I want my daughter to be the winner dammit fashion, he pointed it out to me. And thus, I won the chocolate bunny. I don’t even like chocolate, by the way. I digress.
We headed down to San Diego (maybe you remember reading this post about our horrible nights stay) and met up with Dennis and Jamie. Oh Dennis and Jaime. Those two are really something. And by really something, what I mean is that they are the most fun and sincere and genuine people. Really. Willy and I both left a little disappointed that we didn’t live closer as we were both fantasizing about evenings spent on their beautiful patio where the kiddos played with the chickens and the adults sipped on wine and whiskey while laughing and gossiping about parenthood and life and neighbors we’d like to punch in the face. We offered to have them over for dinner next time they’re in our hood and my fingers are crossed that they take us up on our offer.
I’m so grateful for these photos. Dennis and Jaime, you sure know how to put a smile on this mama’s face.
Live in the San Diego area? Shit, live in New York and got a car and some gas money? I ask because Dennis and Jaime have been oh so generous in offering 50% off portrait shoots booked before the end of the year when you mention The Stork & The Beanstalk. Normal portrait sittings are $250 and include the following: 1 hour of photography, location choice of their studio shoot space or a location within 15 miles of Oceanside, online proof site for 3 months, and your first 8×10 print is only $0.99. Mention The Stork & The Beanstalk and get all this for $125. Such a steal. And with any luck, though you probably don’t even need luck, you’ll leave the session wanting to call these two friends too.
Want to hear more about this incredible duo? Check out this awesome and informative interview by Crash Taylor. A very inspiring, and at times hilarious, read.
I’m Having An Affair…
His name is Mark and he’s a camera and he doesn’t even belong to me. It’s amazing how quickly you can turn on an old friend. From the moment I handled Mark for the first time, I took my Canon Rebel (who has been with me for going on 8 years or so) and spit on it, called it a piece of shit, and tossed it in Hooper’s toy crate. Okay, I’m being facetious. But I’m not lying about the fact I’m in love, with Mark. Mark has been with me for the week and I’ve been busying myself with using him as much as possible in our short time together. In the meantime, I’m proposing a new family addition to Willy who is slowly starting to see all Mark’s wonderful traits. Oh how it pained me to return him yesterday. Here are some shots of Hooper and Sarah, some bath time pics of Hooper, and some of Hooper and his beloved giraffe. I just love pushing Mark’s buttons.
And now for some bath time fun…
And lastly, the remaining shots from the Mother’s Day turn Hooper with his giraffe shoot:
You can check out the first post I did with Hooper and his giraffe here, when he wasn’t quite big enough to ride it but certainly loved pushing it and carrying it. Want a Playskool giraffe like this one? Ours was a gift from my very generous thrift-finding mother-in-law, but this one is available on etsy and it’s in tip top shape!
Oh Mark, how I love thee.
I ♥ William Eggleston
Being that photography is very dear to my heart, I thought I’d share some photography that inspires me. I could start telling you about William Eggleston, but then it would just be hard to stop. This guys work is incredible. He’s known as the father of color photography, bringing color to the forefront when people were only interested in black and white. Here’s some of his work:
Sources: one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve
Then & Now, 14 weeks
When I was 14 weeks pregnant with Hooper, we were exploring Cuba with eyes wide and hearts heavy with anticipation for the inevitable change that was to come. It’s funny, when you have a baby it becomes almost impossible to remember what your life was like before they existed. It’s hard to remember what we did with all that free time when the only one depending on us was ourselves. But traveling has a way of changing that; a way of cementing memories and solidifying your existence as merely a couple. We’ll always remember and cherish our time spent in Cuba.
We arrived in Cancun with a sealed envelope of cash with instructions to obtain our airline tickets to Cuba. They read: When you arrive in Cancun, tell the driver you are going to Cuba. He will leave you at the proper door. When you get there you will see a coffee shop on your left and small counters. In front of the counters, look for a man named Saul. He is around 40 years old, curly hair, obviously Mexican, and usually in a cream colored shirt. You must give him the sealed envelope of cash. He will in-turn give you your visas and your tickets. We managed to find Saul, who actually appeared 60 years old, had skim-to-none amount of hair even left on his head, and was in a red shirt. Either way, it worked out.
Cuba does not have any hostels, which is our typical accommodation choice. Instead, Cubans rent out rooms in their homes to tourists. These homes are called Casa Particulares and the government strictly controls them. In fact, within the first 24-48 hours, a government official arrives to verify their occupancy. Seventy percent of the $25/per night charge is turned over to the government. When considering that Cubans only make a mere equivalency of $12-20 US a month, those that own Casa Particulares make out like bandits. In order to rent out a room, it must first be inspected and approved by the government. As a result, all rooms offer a standard of clean rooms with warm water, bath towels, clean sheets and pillows (mostly stuffed with cotton balls), private bathroom, air conditioning, and refrigerators. Standards like these sure beat sleeping with bed bugs in India or rats in the Dominican Republic. Staying in the Casa Particulares also allows for a closer connection with the Cuban people. To be invited into their home allows you to directly observe their life. It also allows you to see what the homes look and feel like behind the delapitated facade they stand behind.
See that man with the table resting on his knees? We stayed with him. He was pleasant to wake up each morning. We left him a pair of shoes.
Because Cuba is a communist country, its citizens do not pay for things like housing, education, medicine, food is rationed, etc. Even things like sporting events and going to the movies are considered a right to the people. Considering the current state of the American economy, sounds dreamy right? Not so. The Cuban people receive far less than what they need. The buildings are ill maintained. Several were built in the early 1900’s.
Life in Cuba is difficult. Even when one has means to get what they need, one cannot always find what they need. We offered to bring the family we stayed with in Havana anything they might need from the US. The father was a Pediatrician and the mother ran the Casa Particular out of the house. Of all things, they needed a doorbell. Seems nowhere in Cuba sells doorbells. We traded for Cohiba cigars, which turned out to be fake. Not to worry, many legitimately Cuban cigars were consumed.
Aside from the struggles and the suppression, there is something very magical about Cuba. And while the US has so much of what Cuba lacks, there is a great deal we can learn from the Cuban people. The comparison, in my opinion, is like an organic apple to a genetically enhanced apple. While Cuba may appear a little rough around the edges and while you may expect the people to be moping around with their heads down, what the people possess on the inside is pure beauty and a spirit strengthened by survival. Though the streets are filled with potholes, dog shit, and dilapidated buildings, they are also full of life. As a photographer, you know you are in a special place when you can walk down the same street ten times and each time photograph ten different scenes.
Check out those pearly whites, those glasses, and an actual cane (no PVC pipe used there). Not to mention his friends leather shoes. Not too shabby.
Makes one question what it really means to live. The street we live on is full of empty cars and empty homes. Dogs and cats live behind fences. Walk down any street in Cuba and you’ll see people making ends meet. Many Cubans use a lever system, for example, to bring buckets of water or fruit up to their homes. The physical energy this takes is probably more than the majority many Americans exert in a day. You’ll find kids playing stickball because not only do they not have actual baseballs and bats, but they also do not have video games, iPods, or computers. While these kids know everyone on their block, I do not know the names of my own neighbors.
When you walk through a shopping center in the US, you are bombarded with advertisements attempting to sell you on a way some major corporation can profit on you living your life. Walk anywhere in Cuba and you will not find advertisements. Not even commercials on the TV. In fact, I’m told the commercials are instead educational tid-bits about how to breast-feed, for example. I walked through a local market and found nothing more than things sold to fix things: nuts and bolts, replacement roof tiles, and a watch repairman. Life in America is about consumption. Life in Cuba is about sustainability. I mean check out those cars they keep running after all these years.
I feel that in America, we define ourselves by our possessions. People in Cuba, however, are too busy being, living, and surviving. An article in Adbusters addresses this notion, “social life becomes so completely dominated by accumulated products that it causes a shift from having to appearing, wherein all ‘having’ must now derive its immediate prestige from appearances”. We appear to have a lot, but in so many ways have nothing. Cubans, on the other hand, appear to have nothing, but in so many ways have more than we do. Not to say communism is the way or that Cuba is where this family will be re-locating… but there is something to be said for a country with no McDonalds.
So that was then and this is now. Memories packed away in backpacks in the garage and little stampering feet running the halls reminding us that we have transformed from husband and wife to family. And what a beautiful transformation it has been.
Emmerson
I had another date with Emmerson the other day and I’m smitten.
Arizona, Part Two
My father-in-law is a dairy veterinarian. Engage with Willy in a 10 minute conversation and he’ll probably mention this fact. That’s how proud he is. And he has every right to be.
We tagged along last Saturday morning to watch Niles perform two eye operations: one to remove cancer on one of the layers of the eye and another to remove the entire eye that was also infected with cancer.
We saved the eyeball. Willy has plans to trade it for some more tattoo work.
Be forewarned, graphic images follow.
The Highchair Series, The Jolly Edition
Wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas!
Really mom? Another photo shoot in my highchair? Can I go play?
I guess it’s kinda silly since I have this Santa hat on n’ all…
What’s Sarah doing over there?
Any chance you can crop my nipples out of this one mom?
Oh dear Lord, help me.
Fine. I submit.
Wait a second! Wait just a second!
I have hands. I can take this thing off.
Shoots over.